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I'm sure everyone in the past few years has noticed the upswing in teen suicides; whether from mounting school pressure, peer pressure, bullying, and so on. WE all know this has been happening. But never before has it hit me so close to home. My little sister, who is 16 years old, is in tears, having just found out that one of her friends has committed suicide. He was a senior in high school... Young... Prom king, 4.0, on the soccer team. But for whatever reason this young boy chose to take his life. My heart aches for my sister, and the family of the boy, who we know.

As adults, we have to be more aware of the plight of the youth. Their emotional problems are real to them, not just the silly dramatic moans of a teenager. Whether or not we understand why the youth can be so down-trodden, they feel the way they feel for a reason. If you notice a young person in your community is down, try to help. Let someone know. If you see the warning signs, as suicidal persons tend to show signs before the act, alert someone. Alert a parent or teacher. And if you are a parent, make sure your children are never ashamed or scared to talk to you about anything! Whether it be sex, drugs, bullying, school; anything! Make sure your children know they can talk to you, and seek comfort from you. Because many suicidal kids are desperate and scared, and think they have no one to turn to.

As for my young viewers in high school or below... Make sure you treat everyone with the same amount of care and respect you might treat your mother, or best friend. You never know what affects your words have on people. And you may never be able to correct yourself before it's too late. Be kind, even if others are not kind to you. And look out for your friends. No one saw the warning signs in this kid... He could have lived, maybe, if someone had told his mother or a teacher. If a kid is showing signs of self harm, tell someone! Don't be afraid of being called a "snitch" or a "rat." That person whose parents/teachers you told may hate you for a while after, but it could be the difference between life and death.

And if you are suicidal, depressed, or have even just thought about suicide... Sit down, take some deep breaths, and think. Is this what you want? Death is permanent. You can't just come back when you feel like it and hope that everything is better. You die... And you leave your friends and family behind to grieve over your loss. There are always ways to get help... Therapists, your family, your teachers, even your counselors. If you can't afford a therapist, there are call stations you can call for free help. If you need help, seek out help. Nothing is ever worth taking your life...

So everyone, please...In the wake of this tragedy in my families world, keep things in mind. Learn to recognize the signs of suicidal tendencies... Treat people well... And if you are suicidal you need to get help... Because no one wants to go through this type of sadness.

RIP Michael
May your life in the afterlife be happier for you than your life was in the mortal realm
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Stet709 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012
I agree that suicide is the easy way out, but is it the right way? When i think of suicide and taking the easy way out, I think of positive things, like what could accomplish in the future and what to look forward to. It definitely helps to talk about it with someone you trust and love. Think about how suicide would affect those whom you love.

Sorry for the loss :(
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ElectricNightmare Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
One of my friends has been thinking about suicide. He told us in school. He said: "Sometimes I just want to go to a bridge and '. . .' " Fortunately he told us! Our teacher immediately told his family and now he's in therapy. We were all shocked, not only because he confessed it, but also because he didn't seem depressed or anything like that; he is actually the complete opposite!

PS: This may sound odd, but I think the last sentence in this journal is full of win, miss.
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HydraCarina Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012
That's so sad... I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope your sister gets through this.

Years ago, when I was a teen, a friend of mine was quite self-destructive, and I was very afraid that she would commit suicide. I'm glad she didn't do it.
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dark-river-mori Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012
my condolences to your family and his, you guys will be in mine and my families prayers

and i'll be looking out for my little brother and his friends more now, they're only 10-11 now but i'd like to let them know that they can come and talk to me if they need too at any age if they need it
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Shoka98 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
As a young teenager, I have to admit I have thought of suicide alot. But I'm too scared to do it; I don't know what'll hapoen when I die. If it's true that It'll bring peace then great, but what if it doesen't? What if I have to roam around as a ghost, and have to see my friends not know I'm there? I'd miss everyone so much...
So to stop myself thinking of it, I think of all my friends. And my favourite band, Simple Plan. Each of their songs describe one of my problems, and it helps me. I've not told any adults about how I feel, but I always find them moaning about kids being over dramatic. I was only 14 two weeks ago, and I always hear people saying "kids are so ungrateful for life. How can they know how bad it is when they've hardly lived it?"
Tell you what, just because we're still learning and we're young doesen't mean we don't have feelings. Like you said, we think these things for a reason, and sometimes it can simply be because noone will listen, because we're young and noone gives us any respect. It's not fair. Adults always say treat others how you would want to be treated. Why dont they live my that rule too?


R.I.P Michael. I hope wherever you are now, you're not suffering anymore.
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Neptunes-Sparks Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
:iconsadhugplz: I'm so sorry for your loss.... In fact I had to go to guidance because on of my friends wanted to commit suicide... He's in CPEP now... I hope it helps him.... I've thought about taking my own life before, but I just couldn't do it... I was put here for a reason, and if that reason wasn't a good reason then so be it. It gets better and it always does :aww:
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snickerdoodles995 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Honestly, death is better than life is many aspects. No one can hurt you. You're free from pain. It's something I've come to while sitting in the darkness contemplating suicide. And while I no longer want to take my own life, I do not fear death.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
No one knows what comes after death, so no one knows if there is pain or peace. I think it's more important to make sure young people understand that, rather than think it's a easy way out. Because no one knows.
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snickerdoodles995 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Hah, not just young people commit suicide. There is nothing worse than a war veteran or a policemen committing suicide. Nothing worse.
And of course, no one knows. But I believe in an afterlife where you feel no pain. You can't thwart me on that.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
whatever you say. But i don't really think your comments on my journal were very appropriate for the mood and subject matter
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snickerdoodles995 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm sorry.
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XUhuruX Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I am SO sorry for your loss :'( It really has touched me deeply.
And as a young teenager I will listen to your advice.

Personally, yes, I have thought of commiting a suicide, but, as you said, I thought about the consequences and didn't do it.

And again, I'm very sorry for you and your sis.
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SnowStoat Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I agree with every word you wrote here.
and I'm very sorry for your loss. :(
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loupgaroukira Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Student Filmographer
Right now I could be like everyone else and say "I'm sorry for your sisters loss" (and of course I am) but I'm sure by now your tired of hearing it. And to be truthful it probably doesn't help all that much right? But I can say I know how your sister feels. In March of this year I had a friend from high school take his own life. I can't pretend to know who Michael was, but I knew Jake. He was much like how you describe Michael... Senior, 4.0, a music prodigy, and just an all around great guy. You would have never thought he would do such a thing... and he probably wouldn't have.... till he was falsely accused of stealing something from someone and three months before graduating, was expelled from the school. To him, school was everything. And with being expelled he felt like he lost everything... in a way he did... he lost the opportunity to be prom king, lost his 4.0 gpa, and most of all lost his FULL RIDE scholarship for music. So without saying a word he went home, left everything, took his car a good hour away from our home town, and crashed it. It was a pretty surreal getting out of my car that night after work and my friend calls me and says Jake's dead.

Anyway I guess what I'm trying to say is tell your sister she's not alone, and she never will be. Because she knows the pain of losing a friend, hold on tight to the rest of your friends and family. They will always be there for you. I know it hurts now. It's going to hurt for a while.... I'm still healing... But in time it will hurt less. You'll never forget that person you lost, you'll always remember how they were and wish they were still here. But that person is "in a better place", not to be corny or anything. But I truly believe that Jake's happy now. And I'm sure Michael is too.

I'm sorry that this comment is so long, and I'm sorry if I have said something that might have made you mad. I know sometimes people don't like other people talking about someone they don't even know. I'm sorry for your sisters loss.

R.I.P Michael
R.I.P Jake

"Have the Courage to Live. Anyone can Die."

~Robert Cody
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Stargazer2015 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
I am so sorry for you, your sister, his family and your community. Last year a boy in my community committed suicide after being bullied at school. I didn't know this boy personally, but in a small community like mine, everyone feels the loss. I am so sorry.
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StarrySkNightdreamer Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I'm so sorry for you, your little sister, and the boys family. It's sad how someone that can seem so happy are the ones who are suffering the most because something happened. I hope you, your little sister, and the boys family make it throught this tragedy.
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Haylzy-HeartBroken Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
so weird to see this today.... todays one of those days where i cant think about anything else
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ValiantShadow Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Student General Artist
I sympathize with your loss. I'm not sure what to say to this....I've personally been bullied for various reasons, but never have I dealt with a tragedy such as this personally.
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dollphinwing Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Artisan Crafter
Sorry to hear of this tragic news. I too was bullied quite a bit in school, as well as my close friend. I never dreamed of actually killing myself, but I know my friend did. If I hadn't been there for her who knows what could've happened. I attribute some of these recent cases to online bullying. I know I always loved coming home to a safe haven where no one would bother me, yet now kids don't seem to have that luxury with social networking letting the bullies invade their homes. Of course that isn't the entirety of it but I think it's one of the big reasons. Once again my condolences to your family and neighbors.
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Natural-NW Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
Sorry to the loss. I know what you mean. I'm an ally in GSA, which is Gay Straight Alliance, I always help others whether in trouble or just having a bad day. I'm an ally to everyone. So I know what you mean in helping people out.
This is what I say to a lot of people, it's okay to mess around with someone, but don't ever mess them up.
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DrazziElder Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Student General Artist
I'm sorry for your loss and I do hope your sister gets through this.

I agree that nothing is ever worth taking your life. I am ashamed I ever had those thoughts and almost tried to do the same. I have never regretted even once changing my mind. My life has not improved dramatically since then but I have, I changed. It's not over till it's over. To think of the things I would've missed, I shudder at the thought.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
thank you for your words
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deisakufan101 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
Oh no! Oh I'm so sorry! I will do what ever I can, and it's good to be aware. Even I was,...well suicidal. No one ever knew because in front of them I was all happy and smiling but inside I was an emotional wreck. It can be hard to detect these sort of things so always show others your love. My best friend did in my greatest time of need, and he ended up saving my life. I hope your sister is ok and my heart goes out to you and that poor boys family.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you for your kind words
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deisakufan101 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
Your very welcome
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Khorran Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
I find it so sad that humans drive each other to kill themselves. We are truly an EVIL race! Humans are the only creatures that deliberately hurt, lie to, steal from, and cheat on each other. Its sickening!

No one should have to be driven to such extremes to escape whatever is disturbing them. People need to know that often its not the mopey, "emo"/ goth types that are suicidal...but those that seem to have everything and have their life together.

i am sorry for your sisters loss and hope that in time, her and her friends family will be able to heal from something so tragic.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Well, this kid apparently seemed to be the happiest kid in the planet. But we never know what's really going on in peoples heads.

thank you for your words
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SoBeyondCrazy Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
Sorry for your sister's loss. I had a friend die abruptly my senior year, there's no mental preparation for that kind of shock.

Also, I'd like to note that for those too intimidated to speak with someone about their suicidal thoughts, there are many online chat/email groups. Sometimes writing it down is easier than saying it out loud, and this is a simple way to vent, organize your thoughts, and (if you so choose) get help. Many groups are completely anonymous, so if you can't talk to anyone in your own life, I suggest trying this.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
thank you for your kind words and good tips to those seeking help
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Devinital Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
I'm truly sorry for your loss and that of Michael's family. May he rest in peace :pray:.
I know how hard it is to see light when your shrouded in that depressive darkness: I seriously started thinking about claiming my life a year or so ago (I'd rather not go into details). Thank God I had good friends and DA to stop me: I always thought how sad it would be to end my life when I had barely gotten any of my art or stories out. I'm not trying to sound arrogant but I felt that I still had stories to tell and new ideas to share. I wanted to be something more then just that promising artist that disappeared off the site one day, making people wonder what ever happened to them.
So my message is to find that no matter what you think of yourself, you have worth and a place in this world. You deserve to be remembered as some one who left a impact not a hole in peoples hearts. That is all.
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DrazziElder Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Student General Artist
You made me cry. I understand your feeling and reasoning completely.
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Devinital Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Thank you. I appreciate that :hug:.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
thank you for your kind words
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Devinital Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Your very welcome.
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RaineySkye Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Its a very saddening thing to hear when someone tells you a person has comitted suicide. :(
Its really kind of you, Raven, to be there for your sister and the boy's family, even though you didn't know him extemely well.
My friend knew a guy she was really close to, and he almost jumped off a cliff and killed himself. But his sister saved him from throwing his life away. There were people who really cared about him, and he got help. If only the same could be said for Michael. I hope he is happier where he is.
R.I.P.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you for your kind words
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Xanthriane Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I almost want to ask if this could just be "suicide awareness". I few weeks ago, a classmate of mine committed suicide. I didn't know him very well, but one of my friends was very close with him. I immediately called to console her, leaving class in the process, only to find out that she hadn't gotten the message yet. I had to tell her that her best friend killed himself, I mean, at that point I couldn't just say "Oh, uh, never mind about being 'okay'." I had to listen to the heartbreak on the other end of the line, being absolutely helpless to do anything about it.

He wasn't a teen. He was a non-trad college student, born around mid 1980s. He had some problems in the past, but claimed to be over it. He was making plans for the future: a project for creative writing, going to London on a class trip. He was even talking with my friend the night he killed himself.

Suicide hits more than the people close to them, it has a ripple effect, hitting all those they ever made contact with.

I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry for your sister's loss.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you for your words. And yes, I could have labeled it "suicide awareness" but suicide has always been around. Especially for adults. It's sad, but true. Right now, teen suicide is on the rise, and it's something that we can battle. And this incident is about a teen. Adult suicide is sad, but the youth should never have to die.
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Xanthriane Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Agreed and I see the relevance for it being about a teen, but I would argue that it's just as sad as a young adult. But yes, teen suicide is on the rise, unfortunately.
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Threkald Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Somehow it reminds me of my best friend.. She didn't comit suicide... But .. she.. Died from cancer two years ago.. A loss like this is hard to get ver... I send my thoughts to you, your sister and Michael and his family. R.I.P
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
thank you for your kind words, I'm sorry for your own loss
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duskwolf14 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012   Traditional Artist
*sigh* its sad how these things happen. unfortunately only the ones who commit really know why they wanted to. i wish some things like this never would happen i think the world would be better without it, although the world would be better w/o alot of things :(
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
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CougarHearted Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
I'm so sorry to hear what happened to your sister's friend. And like you said before, I hope he is at peace now. =(

And I agree with the paragraph you wrote about treating everyone with respect. You don't have to like or get along with everybody on this planet, but that still gives you no permit to degrade them with words or physical violence. It irritates me when I see people call other people such harsh names on social websites such as this one, Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, etc. I really, really, REALLY wish some people would think about what they are about to say before actually speaking or typing, because you are right, words can and do indeed leave an impact on people. Who knows, the person you are calling an "idiot" or a "moron" could seriously take whatever you say to them to heart, and that may tirgger feelings of inadequacy and even worthlessness. So in a nutshell, everyone needs to be more courteous to one another.
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
I agree. And thank you for your kind words
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CougarHearted Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
You are most certainly welcome. I hope all you guys can pull through this.
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blackstarlight17 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012   Digital Artist
I haven't had something like that happen to someone close, though I've had suicidal thoughts in the past. Thankfully mom helped me through it, mainly by making sure I didn't get smothered, but not pushed away, enough to pull myself back together :nod:

I really hope your sister will be okay emotionally and mentally :( Losing someone close can be rough, that's something I know very well :worry:
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InvaderSpotty Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Its good that your saying this, its very inspirational :3

And I feel sad for your loss....
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albinoraven666fanart Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you. I did not know Michael or his family very well, but my sister and family did and I'll be there for them.
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InvaderSpotty Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's really good :3

Your very caring to do that for them ^^
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